Giving thanks ❤

Every now and then we must pause, reflect, and refocus.

Wishing all my fellow Canadians a happy Thanksgiving! I am so thankful for the people in my life who love, support, and inspire me to do and be better. Though I am not yet where I want to be, I am grateful for where I’m at and where I’m headed. Every day is a blessing and a chance to start over. No matter what life throws at us, there is always something to be thankful for ❤

There are two ways to see the world…

“There are two ways to see the world. Some people see what they want and some people see the thing that prevents them from what they want.”

You can go after whatever you want. You can do it your way, you can break the rules – as long as you don’t get in the way of somebody else getting what they want.

The lesson: when there’s free bagels, don’t stand in line. Focus on getting after what you want, instead of focusing on the obstacles that stand in between. Bottom line is, you either find a way or make one.

How do you see the world?

Don’t be paralyzed.

According to Paul Hart in WFG, the two biggest paralyzers in life are:

  1. Worrying about what others think of you,
  2. Fear of rejection.

I completely agree with him. It’s normal to dislike getting rejected, I get it. But we’re grown ups, aren’t we? Come on, when someone says no to us, it’s OK – don’t take it personally and more importantly, don’t take offence. It won’t kill you. Just move on to the next prospect. And we all just need to accept the fact that, someone out there will always have an opinion about you whether good or bad – for example:

You can be the juiciest, ripest, peach in the world. And there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches. 

Ain’t that the truth?! What others think about you is none of your business. What you think about yourself is everything. Just accept it for what it is and never allow it to paralyze you from continuing to do what’s best for your future.

The demons within.

I read an article recently that talks about the enemy and demons we have inside our minds. “What can destroy our ambitions, our fortunes, our relationships—our lives? The enemies lurking inside us, the ones we face from within, the ones we’ve got to destroy before they destroy us.”

According to Jim Rohn, there are six emotional enemies we must defeat (accompanied by my own interpretation):

  1. Fear. This is a no brainer. Sometimes fear can be good, alerting us to proceed cautiously in dangerous situations and should not be ignored. However, most of the time the fears we have are irrelevant and more psychological, causing us to feel paralyzed and preventing us from taking the necessary actions to get ahead in life. Winning on a large scale requires you to walk on unknown territory. But if you allow fear to hold you back from pursuing your wildest dreams, you will never make it. Instead of avoiding our fears, we need to learn to face it head on. What’s the worst that can happen? Once you face your fears, you come bolder, stronger and more fearless. But if you don’t face your fears, they will eventually become your limits.

  2. Indifference. Some people are just apathetic slackers who are stricken with this mediocrity disease and have no interest in shaping their futures. They’re the type of people who don’t care which way their life flows, as long as it’s flowing and as long as they can do as little as possible. Such a sad and terrible infection of the mind!

  3. Indecision. Before I became self-employed, I’ll be honest – I was the most indecisive person, ever. In Jim Rohn’s words: “Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise” which is terribly true. I’ve learned that strong leaders are those who make quick decisions and stick to them. Sometimes it’s about going with your instinct and following your gut – what’s best for the team? What’s best for your future? I believe there’s no such thing as a bad decision, because if it turned out that you made a terrible choice, then it becomes a lesson.

  4. Doubt. We all go through moments of self doubt. I remember when I first ventured into this business, not having a clue whether I had what it took, or whether I was good enough, or smart enough, etc. There’s a saying, doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. The idea is to acknowledge your doubts, but to go after what you want anyway. There’s enough people out there who already doubt you, you can’t be one of them. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will! So don’t be a little bitch – go after what you want and silence your doubts.

  5. Worry. So I’m super guilty of this. I’m an extreme worrier (not warrior, lol). I tend to come up with all types of scenarios in my mind – awful, terrible, downright frightening thoughts of what can go wrong. Sometimes we worry for no reason. It’s all in your head! Worrying is OK, to some extent. But train your mind to focus on what can go right, instead of worrying about what can go wrong.

  6. Timidity.I’ve never experienced timidity, but I can see how this is an emotional illness. You need to be aggressive and you need to fight for what you want. NOBODY wins by being timid. Your team won’t win if you’re a timid leader. Your family and kids won’t win if you’re a timid parent. Your friends and peers aren’t going to give you the respect that you deserve if you don’t demand it. Being tenacious and aggressive means not playing nice all the time. But what it boils down to is exerting the confidence and the determination to win. Nobody ever became successful by being timid!

Are you your own worst enemy?

To read Jim Rohn’s full article, click here.

Why settle for average?

At one point or another, we all used to be just average, ordinary people programmed to do average, ordinary things. Things like watching television, playing games, reading tabloids and getting rapt up in celebrity gossip (guilty), resisting change, partying with friends every weekend, drinking and smoking, staying comfortable, not taking responsibility for your own actions and putting blame on others, etc. Normal things.

But eventually, you get to a point in your life where an epiphany strikes you from seemingly out of nowhere and you’re hit with the realization that, normalcy isn’t what you’re looking for. It’s that aha! moment where you look at your hardworking parents, who are still nowhere close to their golden years, or you look at the old man handing out flyers at the grocery store, and you think to yourself,

… is this where my future is headed?  

The truth is, you’ve never wanted an average, ordinary, normal life. But you’ve been conditioned for mediocrity and to go down this path your entire life. The fact is, as much as I love my parents for all the sacrifices they made to bring us to this country, where they came from were dirt floors and scarcity of food – in other words, they came from poverity. When they came to Canada, they upgraded our life from the low, poor class to the middle class. Now it’s OUR job to take our family from the middle class way of thinking to the world class. It was then and there that I realized what I wanted all along, was a spectacular, fantastic, extraordinary, incredibly ABUNDANT life. A life my parents (bless their hearts) never had.

Here’s the kicker – in order for you to attain this type of lifestyle, we need to un-do all the things that make us ordinary and re-learn habits that are going to take us from ordinary to extraordinary – things like reading good books, setting goals and reading them aloud daily, embracing change, complimenting and praising others, learning to forgive (not for others but for your own peace of mind), helping to uplift others, exercising for good health, facing your fears, mastering your craft daily, and manifesting positive affirmations into your life. All these things are uncomfortable on some levels, and because of that, not many people are willing to do it. That, my friend, is exactly why YOU need to do it. Because in order to have a life that others can’t have, we must be willing to do what others aren’t willing to do.

Why be good when you can be great?